Freda Lee

Define selfish? Well according to the oxford dictionary, it is defined as “lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit of pleasure”, therefore me and oxford dictionary have completely different definitions.

I associate being selfish with focusing on yourself and not neglecting your needs, we spend so much of our lives trying to please others, bend our back over helping those who possibly wouldn’t do the same back and forgetting what we want out of life. When trying to find out where the heck you want to be in life, sometimes you need to pull out the deck chair, grab a glass of amaretto or rose and just sit there and question certain things in your life. Sure we can take on advice from family, friends and others, but to do really agree with it?

You gotta watch your own back because no one can do it better than you. Forget putting expectations into outside sources, the only person you should highly expect of is you, people can iffy and people may not always return a favour. It’s easy to conform to the ideas of others and forget our own, they can have such a huge impact on the way we act, the choices we make and our ambition. You may look up to other individuals, but who you do want to be? Do people look up to you?

“You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn

Being self-focused and scheduling some “me time” may have a number of benefits such as;

<strong>Being an healthy individual </strong>

When your being your self-focused, you’ll take better care of yourself, you won’t be giving away too much of energy and focusing on the needs of others.

<strong>Creating better relationships</strong>

You focus on other people’s needs way too much and not on your own, you may end becoming the ‘yes man’. When you’re able to focus on yourself, you can tell your partner or whoever boundaries, you’ll be healthy and grounded and can rely on yourself to fill your emotional needs.

<strong>Dancing around happy</strong>

Being selfish, you’ll end up doing things that YOU like instead pretending to like shit you could care less about. You’ll be able to discover who are, what you like and what you don’t like. Happiness will abundant in your court and the days of moping around will be somewhat over.

And that is why you should a young and selfish lifestyle. Take responsibility in terms looking after yourself, putting yourself first and getting what you need.

A little bit of selfishness won’t hurt anyone,

The FL x